manipulative mother in law

Tiana
Okay you guys, I have an issue. Honestly, I am not sure if I am exaggerating, but to be honest my mother in law is overbearing. When my baby was born she told me I was clueless and I was a first time mother who did not know anything because I turned down her suggestion of wrapping my child in her fathers work clothes. She’s not any witch or anything, I don’t know. Anyways after that day that she disrespected me in my house and laughed at me because I told her no. I do not like her. Just recently she wanted to come over and see the baby. She called to see if I was home I told her no. She was already on the way to my house when she called. Later, my boyfriend calls to tell me that she was crying and did not want to speak right now because she didnt want to offend anyone. In other words, she was upset because I was not home. First of all, she was constantly calling my husband to tell him that she wanted to come over. My boyfriend works and his job is not the job where he can answer phone calls. She decided to call me at the last minute and tell me she was on her way. Why didn’t she call me instead of my boyfriend. It just doesn’t make any sense. She complains that her children do not visit her or take her into consideration. This is my question, my boyfriend works 6 days a week, his only day off is Sunday. I want to spend time with just us three, but she wants to spend time with us also. She does not make any effort to come see the baby throughout the week and expects us to go visit her. How often should we go visit her, without her getting in the way of our family. I just feel so anxious when she is around my baby. I think that it is just because of my feelings towards her. What do I do?