Please, please, read my long ass story...

So I met this guy in 2016 through mutual friends at the beach. the whole time we were at this bar/club we were just having small talk and I could tell he was in to me but I had a boyfriend and he respected that and left it at that. Few months later, he comes in to a restaurant I worked at (he didn’t know I worked there) and I went up to his table and was like “oh hey, you’re the guy from the beach” and we just talked as I waited on him and his friends, he asked if I was still with my boyfriend, I said yes, and that was that. He did start following me on social media but nothing was ever said or done inappropriately. We were just friends and I even tried to hook him up with my best friend (they went on one date and that was it) he came in to my job a few times and we just had friendly conversation.. I ended up getting married to the boyfriend I had. And now in the process of a divorce.. (That’s another story in itself) I deleted all of my social media, but kept my Snapchat. A few months ago he snapped me and asked if I blocked him on social media, I told him no and the conversation lead to me being separated and all that such.. we just talked and talked, and he asked me to hang out.. I decided I would and had absolutely no intentions on even considering dating him just because I always thought he was super cute, but I wasn’t really interested in anything with anyone because of the shit I was going through. So we hung out as friends and with his friends. When (M) went to the bathroom his friend asked me what was going on with us, and I said we’re just friends, I’m not really looking in to anything. And his friend continued to tell me about how much (M) was in to me and has been in to me since the day he met me. And I kind of believed it. But kind of just left the conversation at that. That was on a Sunday. Well, later he texted me and asked me if he could take me out on a date, I agreed and we went out on that Thursday. I was surprised at much I actually enjoyed myself, but still was extremely reluctant.. the next week he asked me if I wanted to go with him and his friends to another town about 45 minutes away for this vintage bike show and I agreed to go.. it was so much fun. Well, later that night he came up behind me when I was sitting in a chair and he kissed me (honestly the best first kiss I’ve ever had with someone) and I definitely felt something there. After I went home that night he asked if I wanted to come over the next day which was a Sunday and hang. I agreed. I picked up a redbox and headed over there around 4pm. There was a really bad storm that evening so his power ended up going out about 45 minutes after I got there. We literally sat on his couch for 5 hours just talking. Not skipping a beat. I was honestly afraid he was going to try and make a move on me. But he didn’t, he was so respectful. Because I previously told him that sex was important to me and I didn’t want to rush it with him. He agreed and kept his word. I told him I was afraid to get hurt and that him coming in to my life was super unexpected and nothing I was looking for because I was so content with being alone. He said he wanted to prove himself and show me that his actions will match his words. And they have. Omg. He’s been absolutely amazing. I can’t even explain it. He’s surprised me with flowers, cooked me dinner, tells me I’m gorgeous and beautiful all the time, literally pays attention to every detail and everything I say and remembers all the small stuff that I love. We text and talk all day every day when I’m not with him. Well, last weekend I ended up meeting his son. Who is 9. And I was extremely worried because he’s had so many problems in his last relationship with them and his kid and trying to tell him how to raise him, and also his son has not liked on girl that (M) has dated. So I was super worried. Well, instantly his son and I clicked. And his son instantly had me wrapped around his finger. He’s so smart and intelligent and so so sweet. I just couldn’t believe the past girlfriends couldn’t see it. We went to eat later that night and I taught his son how to be a bad ass at checkers and just talked and it was the cutest. (M) texted me while at the restaurant saying how he couldn’t believe what he was seeing. That he’s never seen his son like this with anyone and how I’m just melting his heart in the palm of his heads because no girl has ever treated his son the way I was or even interacted with him the way I was. There’s so much more to that in itself but this is getting long... anyways.. (M) and I became official a few days ago, and I didn’t have to hesitate to say yes. I knew I liked him, and he had proven himself to me on so many levels, I knew he deserved a chance. Well, he’s out of town this weekend helping his mom move, he wanted me to come, but I wasn’t ready to meet his mom. We’ve been talking all weekend, and well.... this happened

A part of me just thinks it’s way too soon. I mean it’s been a little over a month. And I just don’t know how to feel about it. It doesn’t scare me away, or freak me out, but I just don’t know what to think?! Am I crazy or is it normal that he can “love me” this soon? I know you can’t put a Time frame on Love... but it’s like, I haven’t even opened myself up to the idea of it. I was married before and I knew I wasn’t in love with him. We got married anyways. I really don’t know what Love feels like because I’ve never been in love so I can’t sit here and say he doesn’t feel the way he does. I don’t know.. I kind of feel like an ass because I didn’t say it back. But I also just can’t tell him I love him if I don’t. I definitely think it’s possible for me to someday because he truly

Is an amazing, selfless, caring guy. He treats me like a queen, and I’m not exaggerating on that. What should I do? Should I step back from this relationship and just give it space and give myself time to gather my feelings? Or should I just embrace it and take it on 100% and open myself up to “love”? What do you think?

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