I don't know what to do

1st problem: my family has super strict dating rules and I kinda like "dated" this guy it's complicated but I'm so paranoid my mom is going to find out what should I do?

2nd problem: when I was younger like 5th grade and 4th grade I'm in 8th grade now me and some of my friends would like rub each other's clits and finger each other and watch each other masturbate we stopped doing it eventually and when we did it we didn't know what we were doing but now I have a guilty conscientious casue I now know what we were doing help!?