This may be a little long but please read through, I really need help and I appreciate anyone that takes the time to do so.

Alrighty so late last year I started talking to this guy from work, which I know is a big no no but I planned on leaving this job by the summer of this year so I figured why not. Anyways we slowly started talking and then things picked up and we hit the ground running. He is a super sweet guy, funny, caring, attentive, just perfect. Well almost perfect.

So after a couple months of talking, in March we decided to go on our real first date. However a few days before our date, he tells me that we need to talk because he has something to tell me. And of course he COMPLETELY blindsided with a baby bomb. And I was actually super hurt about it because at this point I already begun to have feelings for him as I was really enjoying him and presence in my life and I felt like that is something you should tell someone in the beginning and not after 5 months of talking and hanging out.

Nonetheless, ever since he’s told me about his daughter and the situation, I’ve been battling if this is something I really want to commit myself to. He has a baby with his ex of 2 years and they ended because all she did was cheat and mistreat him. She ended up coming back to him saying that she was pregnant after they been broken up for a few months and she had been with other people. So realistically there’s a good chance that he’s taking care of a child that’s not even his, and he knows this. But he still continues on being used by this woman and taking care of his beautiful daughter. I’ve encouraged him several times to get a DNA test so that he can know for sure and then pursue more visitation and even joint custody of his daughter because he does a lot for the baby and the mothers family but she still disrespects him and barely lets him see her.

So I have this perfect guy that I’m really into, and that’s really into me but has a baby that he isn’t even always sure is his. And as much as I love kids and want some of my own, I know that dating someone with a child is another dynamic that I’m not sure that I can handle. The mother of his daughter calls and ask him for money and rides (not for the baby but for her) whenever she wants which pisses me off. I refuse to be apart of any baby mama drama (yes his ex is that type of girl, her daughter’s best interest is not always her #1 priority). And I especially don’t want to become attached to a child that’s not even his. I really want to be with him as I do love and care about him but I think that this could be too much for me as I’m only 18. But I don’t want to make him feel like he has to choice between us to because I’d want him to choose his daughter. So what should I do? How should I go about this? Please help.