Who is right

Amanda • Mommy.5.2016

My husband took kids to a movie a few weeks ago. When they came back I was watching a movie with my 5 yr old and told all the kids to go outside so we can finish the movie. My oldest said no I’m tired I said ok go relax outside you were just fine until I said no phone and go outside.. My mom who is raising my oldest said I should of allowed her to rest inside as my daughter wanted to... she also stated that if my kid doesn’t want to do something she shouldn’t be forced to do it.. ie.. told to clean and she states she will clean later.... so am I wrong to think I’m the parent and she is a child she is 11.. we have all noticed that if she don’t want to do what is asked she acts out is mean has an attitude or runs off....