Co-Ed Baby Shower

So I am pregnant with my 2nd child...My daughter will be 11 in July tho so I dont have any baby stuff anymore...even if I did it would probably be outdated 😂

But this baby is my boyfriends first child anyways (even tho he considers my daughter his 1st♡) So my MIL wants to throw us a shower. She asked me to put together a list of people I want to invite along with addresses. I think she is assuming it will be women only.

Here's my thoughts on it - with my daughter I went thru my entire pregnancy alone. Her father wasn't even in the hospital when she was born😔 So for this baby I want my bf to be involved in ALL of it! Including the shower. So I want the shower to be co-ed but the list I put together has almost 100 people on it (he has a big family). I dont want to seem greedy by giving her such a big list of people (shes paying for everything - they are well off but that's besides the point) but I also dont want to leave anyone out or have it be an all female event.

Thoughts or experiences?