Spouses and new babies

How does everyone handle spouses that sit back while you do everything? My husband and I have fought a few times now about me doing 99.999 of the care for our 6 month old. I feel like I shouldn’t have to ask or tell him what to do. Then wen I do tell him what to do he says I make him feel like he’s stupid and doesn’t know anything or the one time he does ask do you want me to hold him for a minute, once I’m already past my wits end, he throws that back in my face that I don’t let him help because he does offer.

Any advice on how you spoke with your spouse? I’m a teacher and I teach early childhood education so sometimes I know when I explain things I do it in my “teacher talk” and then I have to apologize.