What would you think??

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Youve been with your man for 8 years. No kids together,  but u have 2 kids from prior. He has been taking them to school in the morning because he goes to work at noon and you go to work at 6 AM. He never goes to bed with you around 10 or 11 because he gets off work at 8. So he stays up until 2 or 3 every night.  Now it comes out that him having to take take the kids to school has interrupted his sleep and it has been weighing on him for years and he isn't getting the sleep he needs.  How would you feel being told that?                                    I felt like he was basically saying we have been a burden on him for years..... Is my feeling overreacting?

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Maybe he should go to sleep earlier

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I doubt he meant for you to take it that you're a burden. He is just venting his frustration. I am a step mom and my husband and I had a similar situation for a while where he went to work too early to drop his son off at school, but me taking his son to school in the morning would make me late to work. I would vent my frustration too...but it was never because my step son was a burden. It was just a tough dilemma to be in. Ask him if he has a solution to the problem. With you leaving at 6am what would he suggest? I think he will find that there is no other option and to just get use to the interrupted sleep 😕

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It’s not ‘basically saying’ anything. I’m sure he had his reasons for not telling you. Maybe he felt like he’d adjust to it, or he wanted to help you, or he felt it was his duty, ect. 
I think you’re focusing on the wrong thing. You should be focusing on working to fix the current issue, not worrying about him not speaking up sooner. 
If it bugs you, then talk to him about it. But I also think you need to be focusing at the problem at hand to (how to get the kids to school/how he can get adequate sleep)

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hes an asshole. if hes not getting enough sleep, he should not stay up till 3 am. that's some bullshit balls he has to say this to you.
so.. hes expecting YOU , that leaves at 6 am.. to take the kids to school, while he...sleeps til what.. 10 am?
what a load of shit.
I would literally kick his ass to the curb for that shit. not married no kids together.  hes obviously not considering your kids as HIS kids as well. now hes bitching about being a parent figure and taking kids to school?
then why are u with him? sounds like u are better off alone.
the audacity he has, to tell u this shit,  while he stays up till 3 am, is ridiculous

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he sounds like he's being really rude. you have all been functioning this way as a family for the past 8 years. he can go to sleep with you at 11 and wake up earlier to drive the kids/ have his time. he doesn't need to stay up until 3 am. 12-8 is a pretty regular schedule for a lot of people.

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Well if he loves you and your kids then there wouldn't be a problem. He may be going thru something personally that he isn't saying. Try talking to him.

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