Hi everyone,

I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. We met online technically and it turns out he dated an ex friend of mine. From the first time we met we knew marriage was in our future. We knew that's what we wanted.

I've been to his city (nyc) a few times and we've met up in NJ because I live near PA. We struggled for a while. The distance got to us. I cried every day, all day. I could barely do a dang thing without bursting into hopeless depressive tears. It made him feel bad and I felt bad obviously. Communication was at a minimum. He works all the time and has other commitments with family and it frustrated me to feel like I was in last place to everything else in his life. I called him out on it a lot...it almost broke us apart along with the distance. But we never went to bed without saying I love you.

Slowly, then all at once, I knew that I couldn't do that to him anymore. I couldn't blame him for not having enough time for me. It was killing me inside and him, plus our relationship. I gave him space and he tried harder to communicate. Things got better quick.

Fast forward to now. I got us a house and I move in August first. He wont be here right away but I know the wait alone there will be worth it.

There is hope for everyone struggling in an LDR! Just talk things out, calmly, and give space if needed. So much pressure is put on each other and ourselves, it just gets too over powering. Take a minute to say I love you, then breathe.

I wish everyone all the luck in the world.