premature ejaculated

and I don't fake orgasams.. I try to let him know when it wasn't good enough and that just added a whole ego, I break him down issue.. . and I try, but the foreplay is lame. to the point that over the years I just get on top so I can almost get there myself and it always plays out one of two ways.. 1.. he moves me right as I'm getting to like 5 out of 10. the work up stages. and then I have to start all over .. or 2... he cums in 4l5 mins and I never even get close. and he'll try to play to help me get there but its.just so lack luster. and I have sent him articles. I have tried to guide him. but i havent had a real nutt in years . forget about squirting that will never happen again. . . . . .