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I am a black female and I do not like to tan. I'm not sure if this stems from the fact that I have issues accepting my own skin color or from the fact that I just have body issues overall. I recently went to the pool and I tanned despite putting on sunscreen and I'm devastated. I just need to know if this is a bad thing? Because I feel guilty about it....

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It's not bad that you tanned but it's sad that you feel guilty over it! I'm sorry. I have a lot of friends who obsess over not getting darker, and use tons of parasoles and stuff and it's sad :/ your melanin is natural and beautiful ❤️

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Don’t feel bad, we’ve been conditioned to hate our skin based on the media always showing us what people find beautiful and us being terribly underrepresented. 
Growing up I would hear “get out of the sun, otherwise you will be darker” as if it’s a bad thing. With generations of hating ourselves and people telling us we are not beautiful, it’s no wonder our self esteem is damaged. 
But feel empowered in knowing that you’re not alone in this fight for self love and acceptance. Also know that many will look at you and think that you are beautiful, every single bit of you. We are just our toughest critic and that’s normal. 
Your greatest challenge yet is to learn to love and accept your skin tone, my motivation for this is my daughter. I want her to see me as an example of a confident woman that loves her dark skin. I’m not perfect and I have my moments where I cry in front of the mirror because I had a crazy childhood of being teased for being dark and it’s not easy to get over but it’s a daily fight. 
Good luck to you. All the best.

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It is not bad to be tan/dark. You should be proud of who you are and how you look. Look in the mirror, smile, and tell yourself how beautiful you are❤️

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I know it’s hard to love your skin in a world that tells you it’s ugly, but you have to. You’re beautiful black girl. Don’t let the world make you think you’re ugly. MELANIN IS POPPIN 👸🏽👸🏾👸🏿

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You shouldn't be so upset over it that it gets in your way of enjoying a pool party.  That isn't healthy.  You don't need to be worried about your skin being too dark.  Nothing wrong with being a little dark.  Plus, tans are temporary anyway.  It will fade over time.

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This post broke my heart. 💔 I understand not feeling comfortable in your own skin. As women we all face this issue at some point with our bodies. But being darker isn't less beautiful! Look at Khoudia Diop who was constantly teased for her dark complexion. She even nicknamed herself melanin goddess and woman all over praise her for redefining beauty standards in main streaming media.

You shouldn't love yourself any less because you got a little darker, you're still beautiful even if you don't fully see it yet.

Embrace your heritage. Embrace who you are. Love you for all of you, not just pieces. You come from a long line of strong, bad ass women! Don't forget that!
 😘😘😘

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Nothing's wrong with being black or tan or dark hun. Dark skin women can be just as gorgeous as light skin women. You shouldn't feel bad at all.

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Black is Beautiful girl and you should embrace the Melanin you have! I love when my Melanin shows after being in the sun. Never be ashamed of the color of your skin or your body built. You are Beautiful because you're you! Remember that!!

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I clicked yes because I thought you were asking if it was bad that you don't like tanning. I'm also black and I love tanning in the summer! I think you should definitely learn to love your skin because black is beautiful!

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Sunscreen always

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