My husband’s parents are too controlling, pushy, and opinionated with their grandchildren, they have no respect for us as parents. I’m getting really tired of it. How can I address this???

Scenario 1. I’m mexican Catholic, my husband chinese no religion. We agreed we would raise our kids Catholic , we even got married at a Catholic Church.

His mom wants to take my kid to a Buddhist temple. (My husband has never gone to a temple since we’ve been together 9yrs) how can I kindly say I don’t want to confuse my kid, she is Catholic...

Scenario 2. My husband and I chose to combine our last names into one, so he legally changed his last name. This was obviously a huge problem with his dad (a man that was gone his entire life and now decided to be a dedicated family man) my husband mentioned the change to his mom before we got married. She said nothing about it and now (post wed and she’s back with her husband) is against it.

She gives my daughters gifts with her name on it and her dad’s last name.

They don’t respect our choices at all.

It’s really pissing me off. And I’ve been so nice about it all but feel like I’m about to loose it. Please help!

I should also add, they have another daughter in law whom they manipulate the crap out of. She has no say over her kid whatsoever. My in laws control everything and she lets it happen!! i speak up more than she does but they insist...