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So my fiancé is in marine boot camp right now. I'm 15 & pregnant with his baby. He wants to go to college (like actually go to the school) when he starts his 'job' in the marines.. I am a very jealous person & I don't like the idea of this. He's cheated on his ex girlfriends before & me not living with him because I don't turn 18 for another 2 1/2 years is stressful.. I'm afraid he's gonna find someone else & either not tell me or leave me... Him being so young (19) & going to a college with a bunch of girls & parties & drugs... I find to be not such a good idea. I trust him but I'm just so scared of losing him. I know girls will do anything to get with someone & I feel like if I wasn't around my fiancé for 3 years, he would obviously cheat & find someone else... 😭 anyone have any advice?

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Just have faith. A relationship is based on trust.  Be open and don't sweat the small stuff. You are stressing about something that hasn't happen

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No one can take him away unless he wants to be... He should know right from wrong and if he loves you he will do right by you! No one has power over him and no one can make him do things he knows are wrong. If you trust him than you have nothing to worry about.

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You're not going to like this, but I have to let you in on the truth of military life... If you are dating or married to a Marine, there will be times when he will be away from you for weeks or months at a time, and there is nothing that you or he can do about it.  During those times, you will have to be able to trust that he's not cheating with female marines or other girls around where he is. He will have to do everything he can to earn that trust, since he has a past history of cheating, but this is something that you're going to HAVE to face at some point. Whether it's while he's in college or after he gets stationed somewhere, this is a new reality for you. It's not easy, but him not going to school isn't going to solve this problem for you.

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I believe he actually can't start school until after his first two years in service. My husband is a Marine & I just asked him about it. As far as everything else, all you can really do is trust him. I learned quickly to also be fairly patient with my husband while he was at MCT & his MOS school. Along with field weeks and trainings that happen throughout the year. My husband also tends to have night crew with his job so he works until 1 AM. It's frustrating but he has no control over it, do I learned to take a step back and just be there for him whenever he had the chance to talk . Trust and patience are  the key to making it work in my opinion.

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I understand your concerns, however...I went to college and never once used a drug or was offered drugs, etc. And, if one wants drugs, they can buy them from a friend, house, alley, bar, anywhere. Same with him cheating...he doesn't have to be hours away for years on end. If he's going to cheat it can be at anytime...even if y'all live together. Flip side: People have very healthy long distance relationships everyday. None of these things equals cheating or not cheating. 
The stress of all of this can really take its toll on you and baby...try to just let go and relax and enjoy pregnancy and him.

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