Plz read š when to walk away?
Husband and I have been married 3 years now. Weāre only 21. We got married at 18 after dating since we had been 15. Both of our families pretty much told us we needed to get married (I wanted to move out with him and neither of our families liked that idea since theyāre super religious) so the whole thing was kind of a little forced in the first place. I wanted to marry him just not that quick and Iām one of those people who will literally do anything to avoid conflict so I just agreed.
The first 6 months of our marriage were pretty great but since then I just feel like I wanted to be done but I didnāt want to be that person who doesnāt even try. My husband has SERIOUS anger issues. Heās not physically abusive but heās definitely emotionally abusive and refuses to admit it. We donāt really talk bc Iām scared of his reactions. He is literally angry and mean 90% of the time then demands sex so I give it to him (again, Iāll do anything to avoid conflict š) I just feel like our marriage is super unhealthy so Iāve told him he needs to take care of his anger and fix his problems (side note: I acknowledge I have problems to & have agreed to work on mine.) but I literally feel like Iām the only one trying š
I told him he needed to fix these problems after it started getting bad at 6 months and itās gotten so bad Iāve threatened to leave so heāll do his whole āIām so sorry, Iām gonna charge and be betterā I believe him and heās great for like 3 days. Heās kind and starts working on his anger and then BAM right back to where we started EVERY SINGLE TIME.
So my question is at what point do I walk away? Itās been 2 1/2 years and Iām literally miserable. Thereās like seriously no good times together anymore and we have a 1 1/2 year old now and my husband is constantly screaming (& he has gotten physical with him a couple of times) and my husband says awful things to him. I can get over it when itās me but Iām not okay when itās my child. Iām just done. (Ex: my son started crying when he couldnāt get a certain toy out of his toy box & my husband literally screamed in his face & said āSHUT THE HELL UP & GO PLAY WITH SOME MATCHESā thatās literally how bad his anger is over something so incredibly small.
I just need advice and encouragement I guess š
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