I don’t think my husband likes our daughter..

Long post but really need advice. I’m really struggling. I gave birth to our second daughter 4 weeks ago, tomorrow. This morning is what really made me think this. We do have a 4 year old as well. But he’s barely held our newborn. I have to hand her to him or else he’ll just leave her in her swing or on her mat if I put her there, even if she’s crying. Hell just tell her to stop. He won’t pick her up, he says she’s fine. Even though shes pretty much screaming and turning red. And then when I ask him why he can’t just pick her up, he says why? it’s not like I can feed her? Well this morning, she spit up on him (she spits up a lot). And he asked me to take her. So o took her and he was wiping his shirt off and complaining. And I said get over it. And he said no it’s annoying! Mind you, he’s only held her a handful of times in 4 weeks...so I said sorry she’s so annoying, sorry she’s a baby! And he compared her to our 4 year old when she was a baby and how she never spit up. I just don’t know what to do. I’m the one up with her all night, Im the one feeding her and caring for her. I don’t get to spend any time with our other daughter because of it. And she realizes it. So she always asks her dad to play with her. He’s been acting angry, complaining about everything. How the house is a mess, how his food isn’t made right. I’m over him and everything.