I thought we were on the same page...

My husband has known since we started dating that I need to be a foster parent and adopt children. I also desperately want bio children as well. My best friend is currently fostering a 2 year old boy that since the moment I met I’ve felt a deep connection with. Even before he came into our lives we had planned to start our fostering classes in September. He will be available for adoption and the timing should work out perfectly (nothing in foster care is ever perfect so I’m keeping cautiously optimistic).

So yesterday I realized that a huge event ( a tour at 7 different NASA facilities- we’re both huge space nerds) that we’ve been so excited to go to is the same day as one of our fostering classes. I told my husband and I said I was so bummed that we wouldn’t be able to go. Missing one class would put us back months and we would risk the timing for this child. I was extremely surprised to hear that he would rather do the tour and he’s been questioning if he wants to have a child now. I was truly blindsided as we’ve had many conversations about this and were both on the same page about fostering and this particular child. I have no idea what to do. I feel like I’ll completely resent my husband if we miss our opportunity for this child. At the same time, I would never force him to adopt a child he doesn’t want. This is not a choice I want to have to make. Any advice would be greatly welcomed.