TW: Is your SO being unsupportive of mental illness a deal breaker?

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I read a couple posts about mental health and how their partners are unsupportive or don’t believe their mental health issues exist. 
For me, I was with someone who didn’t support my mental health for years. For that reason, I spent 6 years on the brink of suicide with a eating disorder so bad I was vomiting blood. Nobody knew. The only thing that kept me alive was my dog. My SO now understands my mental illness and is there for me, no matter what. He doesn’t agree with medical interventions, but he supports it if it’s necessary and understands that some days are so damn hard they are crushing. At this point, I have to be with someone who understands my mental illness. It’s officially a deal breaker for someone to tell me it’s all in my head or that I need to get over it or refuses hear me out when I talk about it. What about you?

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My SO was raised ny traditional Mexican people who legit belive vapor rub cures everything, and anything else has a home remedy. Culturally, health issues, physical and mental, are majority of the time non existent, especially for men. I do my best to educate him, and widen his perspective. , and he is as open minded as he possibly can be. Deal breaker? Maybe if he refused to learn and grow from his upbringing.

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This falls under the same thing as not supporting someone who has cancer. 
They don't choose to be ill. Until my husband started to understand what mental illness actually is, and how it effects and affects the brain and habits, and seeing it first hand (me) he would tell me "People who are 'mentally ill' need to get over it." 
I asked him if he felt the same way about cancer or any other physical illness. He said "no" and I said "Then why treat people who have an ill brain that way?" 
This got the wheels in his brain rolling, however if he had stayed unsupportive I would have left.

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Okay, look. I have a personality disorder and I know that it’s difficult also for the people around me to deal with. 
So I definitely get why people wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with me during the difficult times. 
But like, I try you know? And if people were dismissive and unsupportive I would hate that.

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I have some issues and my SO does too. He gets it. I've been with someone who didn't and they're pretty insensitive tbh.

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Yes, it’s a deal breaker. I have Bipolar disorder along with some other mental disorders. I wouldn’t be able to be with someone who was not supportive of my struggles. It’s okay if they don’t understand everything. I can’t expect them to. But they need to be willing to try, they need to be supportive, and they need to believe that mental disorders are a very real thing that require medical treatment.

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My health is already to shit and a relapse in my eating disorder could be very dangerous. So it would be, sometimes I need help making myself accountable with food. For the most part I’m ok but I couldn’t imagine being literally on the brink of death again and my partner telling me Its not a real thing. It’s deadly and I need someone that understands this.

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I have a severe anxiety/panic disorder and depression and was so scared to tell my husband when we were first dating.
He doesn’t understand anxiety or depression, and is the most positive person I know.
Even though he still doesn’t really understand why sometimes I’m just sad for no reason, why sometimes I can’t get out of bed, why sometimes I can’t get out of the car, he still supports me 100%!
I live with anxiety and depression everyday, and if it was something he couldn’t handle or did not support me through it, I don’t know if things would have worked out between us to be honest.

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It would absolutely be a deal breaker for me. I have borderline personality disorder, ptsd, generalized anxiety, major depressive disorder, panic disorder. If he couldn’t support me, hencouldnt be part of my life.

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I’m on the fence. I love my fiancé more than life. But I struggle with depression and anxiety. When they get really bad, he just pretends nothing is happening. He notices a difference in my mood, usually he comments on it, and then I tell him “you know I have depression” and he just doesn’t comment on my behavior anymore. He doesn’t necessarily make it worse, but he doesn’t try to help either. He says he doesn’t know how and Idk how either. All I really need is to talk but he says he “doesn’t know what to say” so when I talk to him about it, he doesn’t respond. It’s an issue. I’m not sure if it’s a deal breaker, yet.

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My husband didn’t understand my depression and anxiety. He believed it was in my head. I think the more he saw my break downs, the more he understood I was out of control in a world where I usually am 100% in control. He grew up with a very wealthy family and had everything. No worries, no problems. He just didn’t understand. Thankfully he came around and understands now.

TW: Is your SO being unsupportive of mental illness a deal breaker?

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