What could it be ?

Does tampons cause vaginal dryness? Background for the past year I have been with my husband and his penis is the biggest I’ve had. At first it was extremely hard for me to get comfortable and even relax 🤦🏽‍♀️ I would tighten up so much. I would tear every time we do it and I would also be dry regardless to him eating me before hand. With time I can get wetter now and it’s not that hard for me to relax anymore, but I’m still not as wet as I used to be... i have this thought in my mind that maybe it’s a lot of dick to wet up 🤷🏽‍♀️ I mean my child’s father is so so small and it was very easy have sex back then with no lubricants...as to my husband we HAVE to use lubricants...he is also by far the best I’ve ever had so he isn’t the issue...it is something big trying to get in a little hole but we both thought by now I would be used of it...p.s he doesn’t complain about the dryness he never brings it up...either he is very nice or cool with using lube... I have asked him straight up am I dry? Is our sex good? Etc...he tells me honestly to stop worrying...I do have a terrible history of sexual abuse this plays a big part in me relaxing... I don’t know I use tampons now and that’s the only thing different so I did switch back to pads (I think I hate my period more now ) but anything for me to feel normal again 😢