Boyfriend or parents.

Okay so I have a lot of issues. Between my parents and my idek what to call him. We aren’t together but we talk sometimes like we are. But we have a kid together so my child’s father is what we will go with. My mom hates my child’s dad. They got into a big fight one day and ever since then pretty much she has hated him. Well idk why but we broke up for some reason and it’s like she was relieved but ever since then if I tried making things work it’s like she hated me and wouldn’t talk to me. And he would get upset bc I would listen to her but at the same time I would listen to him too. I KNOW CONFUSING. But my question is would y’all pick your parents over your child’s father or the other way around?????? HELPPPPPPP!