I’m at a loss with despair and feel trapped in a city I hate because he won’t move. I moved to Memphis three years ago to be with him with the understanding it would just be temporary. It has now been three years and he won’t move back with me. We have a 20 month old together and he has an 8 year old from a previous relationship that lives in Memphis. I cry at least once a week. I do not connect with the people that love here. We do not share the same values, work ethic or integrity. This place is a crime capital and I have to carry a gun everywhere. I am so lonely and he works everyday until 10 pm. I love him so much and he is amazing inside and out. I just never get to see him. How can I convince him that my feelings matter too?