How much does your partner do?

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Does your other half cook, clean and take care of the kids? Do you split chores equally? How do you balance household jobs?
I’m 38 weeks pregnant and just had a chat with my partner to be honest and say I am really worried that he might not pull his weight when the baby is born.
I’m scared that because prior to us having a child, he doesn’t clean (he will tidy and put away) and he barely cooks (either he cooks very basic/frozen food or he says it’s stressful, but he’s good when we cook together) that I’m about to take on a mammoth change in my life. I’m scared that I’m going to end up cooking, cleaning and having a baby (due to breastfeeding I feel like I’ll naturally have the baby more).
His response was that he wishes we had a fun relationship, that we both need to still maintain a social life and that we cant at this age (25/26) get into a mundane routine of simply work, cook, clean and watch tv. I agree but that attitude doesn’t get stuff done, it doesn’t result in a tidy house and it doesn’t provide cooked food. It also means our conversation hasn’t resolved anything.
How do you split jobs in your house?

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When I worked full time, I expected everything to be 50/50. Now that I stay home I do most of it, but we have a rule that neither of us is done for the day until we are both done for the day. No the house doesn't need to be immaculate by any means, but if the dishes still need to be done and kids need bath and bed, we divide and conquer until it's done. 
I hate to tell your man this, but if he isn't ready to be a family man then he shouldn't have gotten you pregnant. Unless you're gonna leave your baby with a sitter often (which I'm not comfortable doing as an infant) or you're gonna get a housekeeper....yeah we really don't have much free time with an infant in the house.

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My husband never cooks but he always does the dishes after dinner. I keep the house pretty tidy and do most of the cleaning but he will help on the weekends if I am specific about what needs to get done. 
I think we as women just see things and know what needs to get done but for some reason a lot of men need to be specifically told. My husband doesn't put up a fight when I ask for help but he always reminds me that he needs to be told exactly what to do! Lol.

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I'm due with our second daughter October 7 and stay home. He works and still comes home and helps where its needed or if he notices I'm having a hard time doing things on my own. On nights he's home he does dishes after super even if its just helping run the water and putting the dry ones away and usually does bath time. At 38 weeks pregnant you deserve help without feeling bad about it. As I told my hubby, even when I'm sitting still my body is still working 😅

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My partner does it all! Hes simply amazing! I couldn't live without him

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My husband helps, but as someone else said, he doesn't necessarily see the same things I do that need to be done. If I ask for help, he helps. He primarily takes the trash out and I primarily do the grocery shopping and cooking. Our rule is that whoever cooks, the other person does the dishes. Since I cook most of the time, he does the dishes. Since I am home now with the kids, I will sometimes help with the dishes. He usually cooks about once a week, so I always do the dishes then. He also will do other chores that we share like vacuuming, sweeping, mopping, cleaning toilets, wiping down the kitchen counters, etc. I'm the primary caretaker of the kids, but he helps when he can. Just make sure to communicate when you need help. If you need to, you can have a discussion to divide household chores.

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It’s a bit different for us. 
My hubby works long hours and I am a SAHM. 
I do almost everything around the house but it just makes sense for us. He doesn’t demand perfection and is more than happy to jump in and do chores that I don’t get around to but usually I’ve gotten to most things already .

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We decided that he would take care of the outside and I would focus on inside of the house. So he does trash, cuts the grass, rake leaves, etc. I do most of the cooking, but I meal prep so I only really cook about twice a week. He's a full breakfast person and I'm a cereal girl so on the weekends, he cooks a big spread. I clean..mainly because I hate the way he cleans, but if I ask him to do something he will. For example with my stomach, I can clean our tub anymore, so does that and I clean everything else. We both tackle laundry.

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My husband works full time and I am a SAHM so I do most of the work. That being said, he does pick up after himself, will help out with meals, taking toddler to bathroom, bathing her, dishes if I ask, tidying bedroom, spending free time with toddler, vacuum if I ask, etc. He mows the lawn and helps with outside things that I need his help. 
I do 99% of the cooking, all the laundry (the one thing he hates 🤷), cleaning the bathroom, and most of the child care due to being home. Before I had the baby, I made a bunch of freezer meals so cooking was easy for several weeks. 
Housework is definitely not 50/50 but I consider it my job because I'm at home. Basically he helps when he's around and if there's anything specific I ask him to do, but I do nearly all of it.

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My husband works 12 hour days and I’m a sahm. I’m 39 and we’ve lived together since we were 18. I worked until my daughter was born 10 years ago. I have some investments that I keep up with but it does not involve a lot of work on my end at all. I keep the house organized and tidy most of the time. I dust and clean 3 bathrooms, he cleans master shower and I do the other bathrooms bathtub. He vacuums and mops most of the time-not every time. He mows the lawn, uses the snow blower. I’ll help weed, when he needs it but he’s a really good landscaper on his own and gets it done fast. He does his own laundry and most of the time the towels. He does most of the grocery shopping. Years ago I did most of it, but he actually enjoys it. Sometimes we still go together. I make sure he has lunches and snacks prepared for work everyday. I cook dinner. If he’s around he’ll help wash and chop. If we know we’re having company beforehand, we both go nuts cleaning anything and everything...we’ve always been like that. Then we’re exhausted when company comes but the House sure is clean 😂

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My husband and I split it pretty evenly, but if one needs help, the other compensates:)
I do laundry, he does dishes & cat litter...we meal prep lunches and dinners together on Sundays...he makes breakfast in the morning and I put lunches/snacks together. 
Teamwork 🤘🏼😎
I’m curious how having a baby is going to change or adjust this, but I think it’ll be ok! 
Good luck to you!!

How much does your partner do?

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