Boyfriend has zero sex drive. Is it me?

Question

We have been fighting about this so much lately. I don't feel like he wants me as much as I want him. I want to be touched and held. Wanted. He says he values an emotional connection more than physical but damnit, he's a 22 year old guy. I have a high sex drive.  I get turned down 95% of the time by him. It's like it's only okay to have sex when he wants it and I should just stay quiet and accept it only when he says so. Two people who love each other and are in the honeymoon stage should be having trouble keeping their hands off each other. He won't let me tease him and doesn't do anything in return. I just feel ignored and I'm becoming bitter about it. Like if he was as in love with me as he says he is then he would be more attracted to me. Is it me?

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Has he always been like that it has it changed. My husband has a pretty low sex drive and he always has. It freaked me out so bad when we were dating, we had so many fights over it. I didn't know there were guys like that but there are a lot. My friend was also married to a guy with a low sex
Drive. People assume all men are horn dogs but it's not always the case. It was a long rod for us learning what works for us. It took a lot of open communication and me learning not to take it personally which was very hard. He has to compromise too

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It's not you.  My husband and I went through this so many times and it definitely hurts being turned down but one thing that I have learned is that when your man feels pressured into having sex its a huge turn off for him but being rejected hurts so much more

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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 and half years. We each go through a phase where one of us wants sex more then the other, then there are some weeks we can't keep our hands off each other. We also have a 1 year old, and by the time we get home we are super tired. Sex does not define the relationship. This i have learned. Maybe he's just not in the mood, he will come around when he's ready.

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Sex shouldn't define his love for you. Yes, most men in their 20s have a high sex drive but not all of them. I think it's great he wants an emotional relationship than looking at you like a piece of meat. My SO doesn't have a high sex drive but this was something that was told to me at the very beginning of our relationship. We've been together almost 3 years and I'm so happy. We have the best relationship and now since I'm pregnant and due in the next 2 months, my sex drive is far from what it used to be. Basically, I wouldn't say that your boyfriend isn't attracted to you, I just think he may respect you more than you even know.

Boyfriend has zero sex drive. Is it me?

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