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My boyfriend was tickling me in public and I was trying g to get him to stop, but he wouldn’t. I pressed my knee against his junk and then he bent my wrist backwards until I yelped. It’s swollen and bruised now. I don’t know what to do or what to think. Help!!

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Guys are extremely sensitive down there and I can almost guarantee he bent your wrist in an automatic reaction. Maybe go to the doctor because it could be sprained, and next time he must listen to you and you should rather just knee him or slap him elsewhere to get him to stop.

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If you made yourself clear that you wanted it to stop then he should have stopped, otherwise it becomes a consent violation, regardless of intentions.
The fact that his dick got caught as crossfire was incidental and should not have caused the reaction he had. Most guys do not react like that when their dick gets hit, even if they’re holding someone’s hand (been there, done that several times.)
Causing enough strain on your wrist that it possibly sprained it is far more than warranted and needs to be addressed as a red flag.

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Sounds like he didn’t mean to hurt you, especially if you kneed him in the crotch. If he hurt you on purpose then that is a relationship red flag. But my boyfriend tickles me all the time because he said he loves to hear me laugh which is so sweet but he will continue even after I’m begging him to stop. Sometimes he just gets carried away having fun and horse playing and your boyfriend it may have been the same case. If it really bothers you he didn’t stop definitely talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. Make sure you wrap that wrist up and get some ice on it!

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Yeah um no. First off he should’ve stopped when you asked him to. But beyond that, his reaction is totally unacceptable. There is no way he did that damage accidentally. It’s not like you can just tug on someone’s wrist and cause that damage, he would’ve had to have been trying to hurt you, or at least trying to be harsh enough to scare you. 
And don’t believe any of the “he doesn’t know his strength” bullshit that might be out there. If he’s older than like 8, then he knows exactly how strong he is and how much effort it takes to actually hurt someone. 
His actions are inexcusable. End of story. Don’t wait for it to get worse. If he’s do this for something so small, imagine what he might do if he’s actually mad at you. Yikes. Don’t risk it, get out.

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sorry but getting kneed in the dick does not warrant breaking the person’s wrist. that’s fucked up

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Discuss it or leave. It doesn't take even freaking sign language to know you're hurting someone or making them uncomfortable, so I don't think he cared.

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Ditch that loser. What an ass. NEVER stay with someone who hurts you like that.

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Update:  I did end up breaking up with him, and after I did he wouldn't leave me alone. Once I made it clear to him I was done, he started shoving and shoulder checking me at work (we worked together,) after a formal complaint and having to pressure my managers I finally got him reprimanded for physical assault. I did my best to avoid him and any situation where I'd be anywhere near him, and he would seek me out to shove me. I'm still not sure what did at first was intentional, but it sure feels like it.

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🙄

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I mean he should of stopped and maybe it something to discuss because some people really don’t like to be tickled and do whatever in the moment to stop it ...but a guy has a natural reaction when their junk gets hits so I’m sure he didn’t mean to hurt you it was probably more of an impulse over anything

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