Money and Relationships

Hi guys,

Some background for the story: I grew up in a family where men always treat women like treasure and pay for them in restaurants/bars/on holidays. It doesn't mean that women are just sitting at home doing nothing, they all have jobs and work hard, it just means that that's the way they are usually treated by men in our family/friends circle in general. The majority of men I've ever known/met/dated used to treat me the same way.

My fiancee who I have been with for almost 1,5 years however has a different opinion and believe that everything needs to be split 50/50, he tries to save on everything. I think if he had a motto, it would be *the cheaper, the better*. He knows my background and from time to time does pay for me in cafes/restaurants even though thinks that I sort of *owe him* afterwards. E.g. if after a nice dinner in a restaurant (which he paid for) we go grocery shopping for the two of us or even just go to the cinema, he then asks me to pay the total, cuz he paid for us in a cafe earlier.

I accept both ways of living in general, whatever makes people happy, but in my own situation it does bother me. I tried to get used to it, but every time I think about our future I'm worried if he's simply greedy (which he denies) or it's just the current situation and if he could afford it, he would treat me differently (he's far from being a millionaire, earns a bit more than I do though). It's even harder when I tell various stories from my life to my parents (we live in different countries), they are shocked by the way my fiancee treats me. We are engaged as you understand and apart from the money issues, he's a great man, but the financial side and the whole approach are also important to me as we are not teenagers (I'm 30, he's 28) and planning a family/children.

Could you please share your experiences and maybe some advice on my situation?

p.s. just a clarification: I've never looked for a sugar daddy, it's neither my nor my friends/ relatives approach to life.

Sorry for such a long story :)