Where is your limit with rough sex?

After a conversation with a few girlfriends tonight, I’m curious what other ladies have to say. I have a bruise on my throat from my man (which he felt awful about, he gets worried if he leaves marks anywhere but my ass) and 4/5 of my friends are INSISTING he’s abusing/raping me. They’re all into rougher stuff like I am, but most of them have more limits than I do. My man and I like it as rough as is safely possible, and he always takes incredible care of me after. (Should also be noted, he likes rough but I’m always the one encouraging him to be rougher.) So my best friend is on my side because she knows him better, but these other friends kept telling me how worried they were about me, and how I should tell him if I’m not comfortable with something and I shouldn’t let him hurt me, etc. I explained to them I encourage it way more than he does, and they’re acting like their minds are totally blown.

So I’m curious, if you’re a girl who is into rough sex, where do your limits lie? Spanking? Slapping? Choking? Punching, even? I’m in sex education, I teach kink and bdsm safety so I’m fascinated to know what you think, and why you think you have the limits you have / the kinks you have.

Quick edit for further context: I’m

1000% okay with anything my man does to me sexually, he doesn’t have a violent bone in his body (plus he knows I’d beat his ass if he ever hurt me when I didn’t want him to 😘) so anything he does to me is absolutely my choice, I was the first one of us to approach the other about rough/kinky stuff :)