Who’s MORE right?

Question

**I’m only putting two pole options because even if you don’t 100% agree with either, I wanna know which one you side with most**
Okay so persons A and B have been together for a while and have a 1 year old.  (& yes, if you saw my last post, then it’s them again) 
Person A gets up at 7-8 am to go to work (self employed) and works until 5 or 6 in the evening, drives two hours home, and gets home around 8 pm. So, because person B is a student, and has a little more time to sleep in the morning (gets up at 8 am with the baby, sometimes baby sleeps until 9 am) B gets up at night with the baby, and has ever since birth. 
Today, person A and person B are both off (usually doesn’t happen, usually both have work to do on Saturday’s but today they don’t; do this weekend they both get two free days) and person B got up with the baby more than usual, so only slept for about 4 hours in total. The baby woke up at 8 so person B asked person A to get up with the baby and if B could sleep a little longer. Given that A slept all night and B barley slept at all. Person A thinks they should get to sleep in because they worked all week and B was only in class all week. 
Who should get to sleep in? 
**also, B never asks to sleep in because A works so much so they feel guilty but are running on very little sleep most days**

Answer

I just came to say you guys are lucky your kid sleeps till 8! 
My son is up at 6am if I’m lucky. Usually by 5 he is up. Up and wild running around etc. ( and he’s up a few times a night especially lately because he’s been sick) 
How about persons A & B come wake up with my toddler for a week and I will gladly get up at 8 with your kid.

Answer

One person (the one up w/baby) should sleep in and the other person should take a nap later in the day.

Answer

This is ridiculous. Person B should get to sleep in and person A really needs to involve themself with the baby a lot more. It sounds like, though self employed and really could make their own hours person A, choose a to put their career over both person B and the baby. Fuck all that mess. Maybe person B should go take the weekend to themself and let person A handle the baby 24 hours a day for two whole days. Maybe person A would get off their ass and help out more.

Answer

If both partners have the mindset of doing everything they can to help each other, none of this will even come up.

Answer

Person B. I have a feeling person B isn’t that involved in caring for the child altogether but I could be wrong. It’d be nice for them to take on some of that and it’d benefit them later on so it doesn’t become a Cats in the Cradle situation down the line.

Answer

You have to take it night by night. If one slept all night and one didn’t, the more tired person should get to sleep in. And 8am isn’t that early so person A probably got a good amount of sleep.

Answer

Seems like B is the main caregiver so they should continue to do that. My husband is currently in the middle of a 10 hour sleep so far. I’ve had 5 and am up with my babe. I am the main caregiver of our child and if i need I’ll nap later to make up for it. I do also see the point of person A does work more. My husband works harder than I do. I only work part time and regardless of my sleep that day I think he deserves a good sleep in. My day will come when my babe is grown. But that’s me

Answer

We are in the same situazion sometimes excepr or son is 2 yrs old and never aleeps until 8. I do get up to him every time at night. I also go to school. My partner works full time 50 hrs/week. I would get up with the baby and then nap while the baby naps.

Answer

My husband works all week, sometimes had classes for his job as well. He gets his uninterrupted sleep those days. On his days off, he will let me take a nap since he slept all night and I did not and have to wake up with the baby all week. It’s also a day “off” for me in the sense I get to catch up on some sleep. So I think it’s only fair that person B gets some rest too. Person A got their sleep, and going to class/school isn’t easy either while being a parent. You need to help one another out, be a team and not only worry about yourself but also be considerate of the other person.

Answer

Sounds similar to me BUT..... Person A is my husband and because he doesn’t get to spend any time with the baby during the week he wakes up and eats breakfast with the kids at 7:30 and lets me, person B, sleep in until 9. He naps after lunch with the baby.

Who’s MORE right?

Let's Glow!

The Top Baby Tracker App: Embrace New Beginnings with Tender Care

The Top Fertility Tracker App: Your Path to Achieving Pregnancy

The Top Pregnancy App: Nurturing Your Journey to Motherhood

The Top Period Tracker for Empowering Your Menstrual Health Journey