Rant!

I am 36 weeks pregnant with my first child. She will be the first grandchild on both sides so obviously we have 2 VERY excited grandmothers. I am due on November 27th but if she is not here by November 20th my dr will induce. Now with Thanksgiving being on the 22nd, there is a very real possibility I will either still be in the hospital or coming home that day. My boyfriend's family dinner will include family that comes every other year alternating Christmas and Thanksgiving. So they will not be around again until Christmas 2019. So I told my mom depending on how I feel, I may only go to his family's dinner as we both have large families and I don't want everyone trying to touch my brand new baby during flu season, PLUS i am going to be healing. My mom starts bawling saying that I'm "prioritizing his family over hers" and how I should take the baby to both or neither. She claims that the babys immune system is actually highest those first couple days and scoffed when I said I was going to double check that statement with my Dr. She says I'm being too over protective already and she knows what she's talking about because she raised 3 kids. My mom and I are VERY close but I feel like shes trying to guilt trip me all the time. She also has cried saying that I think she's going to be a bad grandma because i told her she needs to not drink or have her alcoholic boyfriend around when she watches my daughter. (Hes a very nice guy hes just a severe alcoholic who has seizures when he doesn't drink. Hes not a mean drunk or anything) I just feel like she doesn't respect what I say as "mom" and this stresses me out so much. I have put my foot down and kept it down. This is MY child, and what mom says goes! Shes just going to have to get used to this.