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One in a million

I've seen so many posts on this app about cheating SO's, and it makes me horrified for the victims who have been put through that situation.

It makes me so greatful for my husband, and our story. I want to share something positive amidst the chaos in some of these posts.

My husband and I met when we were 19. I was going through a lot personally. I had been kicked off my college volleyball team, failed a class my first semester, and was trying to find myself after feeling like I'd kissed too many frogs. My best friend at the time was dating his best friend at the time, and we met through them at the movies. I was so uninterested in the thought of dating anyone that I was cordial but nothing more than that. Its the movies anyway, right? He was not the type of guy that I dated. Im 5'11, and I was used to dating huge guys. Think linebacker type guys. My hubs is 6'3, but nice and lean. Still muscular, but not the Rock. Well, three group dates later, this sweet man is texting me, asking me out on a solo date. I couldn't say no! The more we dated and hung out, the more handsome, kind, generous, and sexy he became. I couldn't resist him anymore and there we were, two years later, madly in love- when he announces to me that he wanted to join the military. I was shocked, and scared, and running through a million scenarios in my head of how he would just leave and never come back. We had spent every day together practically for 2 years. How could he just leave? I understood his reasons. (he had a difficult family and home life, and I knew a big part of it was him wanting to get away from that) I supported him, visited him at MEPS, watched him swear in, kissed him goodbye, and watched him walk away to board a plane, not knowing if Id ever see him again. I wrote him a letter every day. Every. Day. I cried myself to sleep the first week, and waited. And then he wrote me back. He called me on Christmas day and we cried together. We talked all day long thanks to his sponsor family for the christmas holiday. (Because his bootcamp fell over christmas, and it was towards the end, a local family was allowed to sponsor the soldiers for the day. Cooking for them, letting them use phones and laptops, etc) He got his orders a few weeks later- Memphis, TN. I lived in Houston, TX. We were both devestated. And then, three weeks before graduation, he asked me to marry him over the phone. I was skeptical because of how emotional he was, but he assured me he had wanted to propose before bootcamp, but was scared Id leave him while he was gone. So we did it! I flew to cape may for his graduation, we flew back together, and got married 3 days later. 5 days after that we moved to Memphis, where we lived for 4 years. We had our fair share of fights. I even left for 2 weeks one summer, distraught and wondering if we had made the right choice marrying so young, at 21. But I knew it was right. Hes my person. He makes me better, he helps me love myself, and hes always there for me. Not just when I need him, even when I dont need him, hes there. We moved home after his 4 years were up. We've

been married now for 7 years, and have 2 beautiful daughters. And even though his job is intense, and takes him away from us a LOT, I dont worry about him straying. I dont have to. Im not trying to brag, I just enjoy talking about our relationship because I'm so fortunate to have found my husband so young, and have so much time to spend with him. Hes my one in a million love.

This is us before he left for bootcamp in 2011.