Hey,,,, so I need opinions (again)

Hey so,,, I don’t have anyone else to talk about this to without feeling like I’m annoying them,, anyway, I really want to come out to my mom and step dad and I’m so scared, but if they react positively, and want to help me more with transitioning,,, I might want to do online school so I don’t have to deal with the homo/transphobia from my school (bc of my grade) but I also don’t want to do online school bc then I might not be able to participate in band and I’d have to give up almost all of friends in the band and they’re like my family, and I don’t want to lose them, but I also feel like I should talk to my therapist about it more, but I feel like my step dad would be more accepting than my mom,, I don’t know why, I just feel like he would make more of a effort to use the right name and pronouns and I just feel like he might be more open minded about all of this,,,