Am I just being sensitive?

Question

Yesterday I went on a girls trip. My friends who are all mothers kept throwing jabs at me about how my life is easy, that I’m not tied down to kids, have all the time in the world. It stung. Because these bitches know how long I’ve been TTC and how badly I want to be a mom. I want those same responsibilities and worries. And just because I dont go through their battles, doesn’t mean I’m not fighting my own kind of battle. I’m 5 dpo, AF a week away. Am I just pmsing? It upset me so much that I cried when I came home because a part of me feels like I have a right to be offended.

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That’s really hard to have said to you. I have a “friend” who always eggs at me about “oh, why don’t you try having a child yet??” “Being a mom is so stressful - enjoy your easy life before it happens to you....” “what’s taking you so long??” 
All of her comments hurt like knives to my stomach. Whatever. It bugs me WORSE when I’m around my period, so maybe you are PMsing - but that doesn’t make it okay that it hurts your feelings. Feelings are feelings. 💛 sorry love. 
Also, you’re gorgeous 😂

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Remind them and let them know how insensitive it is because they are your friends and they should care. It is very hard being a mom and they might not even realize that it is hurting you. They might just be nostalgic of the freedom they once had. You guys should be able to discuss your hardships without comparison though!

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I’m so sorry they are being insensitive! 
I went to my nephews birthday party recently and was holding my newborn baby niece. It was hard since I’ve been trying so long so holding her makes me almost cry wanting one of my own. My sister in law could tell I was getting lost in my head so she came to take the baby (she can be super supportive at times) and her friend made the comment “non-mothers don’t realize how tiring holding a baby for long periods can be”. I wanted to scream. Calling someone a “non-mother” was the worst thing she could say to me. I’ve wanted to be a mom for years and this person didn’t even realize how rude she was being. I know I’m not a mom. But don’t be rude about it. 
People just need to realize how hard it can be. I’m open about my struggles now. I don’t get too into details but if someone makes a comment, I just say I’ve been trying for 3 years and hope a miracle happens. It drops the subject and they usually shut up.

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They aren’t your friends 🤷🏼‍♀️ I have friends who are having a hard time TTC, I have two boys, I would NEVER EVER EVER say anything like that to them.

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It’s almost mocking, as if they know better than you. It makes you feel like they’re looking down on you, in addition to complaining about the things you’ve been dying to have and things they wouldn’t give up for anything!
Have you told them that it hurts your feelings when they say that?

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You know what? I was trying for 4 years to get my baby. The month I got pregnant (I didn't know yet that I was) I had a close friend say " you aren't gonna have a baby cause you can't," and I got upset and was like dude you don't say that to someone. And he tried to correct him self and was like "cause Justin doesn't want any kids that's why I said that" and little did he know we were trying .. not preventing anything.. and a week later I found out I was already pregnant lol he apologized profusely for saying that.. I got upset more than I usually would have that month when he said that and I think it was cause my body was telling me fuck him you're pregnant lol.    Just my weird story.

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No, no you are not being sensitive. They are being insensitive and it's pretty shitty of them. I'm sorry that you had to deal with that. I had 2 friends get pregnant during my struggle to do the same,  and both of them never complained about anything around me, out of respect.

Am I just being sensitive?

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