BF’s family

Ok, so I have no one to talk to at all, so I’m sorry if his is long. My bf and I have been together for over 8 months, living together for over 3 months. I have a 9 yr old daughter and 3 yr old son from previous relationships. My daughter talks to her dad in the phone, but he lives in another state, my son’s bio dad left when he found out I was pregnant. My son has never had a dad. My bf loves my kids and they call him dad, he has even said he would like to adopt my son (he knows we would have to be married first). So, getting to the point of this rant... my bf has been telling me from the beginning that he would like for us to have more kids and for the first month and a half we lived together we were actively trying. Then he went to his parent’s house. See, he hasn’t spoken to his family in about 2 yrs and I encouraged him to reach out to them. He did and they are all happy to be reconnected, however, no one in his family (he has like 10 siblings and his parents) will even meet me! He goes to their house for dinners, birthdays, even Thanksgiving, but the kids and I are not allowed over there. They have never met us. I didn’t see him at all on Thanksgiving after he left for work until he came home just before I went to bed. We didn’t even have a Thanksgiving because my family lives half way across the US, it’s just my kids and me here, he is all we have in this state. And now, he says he doesn’t want to get married or have a baby. Now he is actively trying to NOT have a baby with me. He says he loves me and wants to be with me forever, but he’s not ready for anything more right now. After he talks to his mom he acts distant and I know she has told him to leave me and they argue about me, but when he hasn’t talked to them in a while he is very loving and committed. BTW, he moved in with me and I pay almost all the bills, he pays a small portion of the rent and that’s it, but she tells him I’m using him and I’m going to suck him dry and I only want his money, but until recently, he didn’t have a job and I was supporting him. I told him on Christmas if his family wants to see him, they will have to see us also. He said they don’t want us at their house and I said we can meet at a restaurant then, because he is not leaving us alone on Christmas! My mom thinks they are acting this way because my bf told them from the beginning that I’m paralyzed from the waist down. My mom thinks they are prejudice against me for being disabled. My bf says his family isn’t like that, but can’t or won’t tell me why they won’t even meet me. So, what do you guys think about this and what should I do? I’m so confused right now! 😭😭😭