What do I do

Been married for 3 years and together for 9 I don’t know if I am still in love with my husband he is an amazing father but it feels like we are just living life. Our sex life doesn’t excite me and I don’t feel sexy when we make love it feels like he is always just out to please himself he doesn’t put my effort into the relationship either...

I think we are just together because we are comfortable and we wouldn’t know where to start if we had to separate or divorce...

I’m tired of always talking and bringing up matters and would like more effort from him which I have mentioned

I’m just not enjoying making love to him anymore and I don’t know