9 years of hell

I have been with my boyfriend for 9 years. It has been one hell of a ride. We have a 7 year old together and she is what has kept us together this long.

I honestly don't know if I can handle him anymore. He is a little on the mental and physical abusive side. I by no means am scared of him just need a little extra help to decide wether to actually move on or to stay and fright it out.

I don't want to argue anymore with him, I don't want sex anymore bc he only worries about getting his and then gets up and gets dressed like I was a doll. Not sure if it is me or if he is just only caring for himself. If he gets an answer he don't like he gets made and starts the mental abuse then sometimes it gets a little physical. Yes I have quit doing as much around the house bc it is never appreciated or noticed. It is not right but I am not going to keep it spotless and under appreciated.

I keep thinking I am ready to move on and leave him alone but then he does something nice and sweet and it leaves me with hope that he will change and I can have my happy family. I am not sure what to do anymore.

Please no judgment I just needed to vent and hope for some actual good advice.