Why am I like this?????

Question

So for the past month, my boyfriend and I have talked about having sex. And everytime we’re about to start, I get scared and say no.... like as soon as we’re about to start..
I don’t know if it has to do with my childhood and the abuse... but I just want to let myself go. 
My boyfriend says he understands and is ready when I am. I just feel like I’m annoying him or aggravating him by doing that. 
Why am I like this??

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It's highly likely that it's stemming from your abuse. Can you go to therapy?

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I wasn’t abused and this same thing happened to me. It took me over a month to break through it. There is nothing wrong with you ❤️

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A lot of it may be stemmed from a stigma you have in your head about it. The right time will come, and your wall will come down. It's normal❤️ and it is a sacred space so it makes sense

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As someone whose survived sexual assault I totally understand. Nothing is wrong with you ❤️ you’ll work through it eventually, it takes time (it took time with my S/O and I) and the fact that he’s patient shows he really cares (as most guys I’ve met now a days before my S/O want to hit it and quit it as quickly as possible).

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You’re lucky you have a great guy. I can bet he really does mean it and isn’t annoyed. If he’s a truly good guy he doesn’t care how long it takes and will wait as long as you need to feel comfortable

Why am I like this?????

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