Should I feel this way?

Question

My baby girl is a week old now born via c section. I am still in a bit of pain and dont have any more pain meds or anything to help. I love my baby girl and all the time I feel happy and I know im so lucky that i had a happy healthy baby. But my husband works all the time. Mostly 4 am till 5 or 6 pm. Sometimes 7 am to 9 pm. And hes never here and when he is here hes asleep and cant really help wake up with her in the night because he has to get up so early. It used to bother me a lot when pregnant him being gone all the time but now it just hit me it feels like. I feel depressed and stressed because of this... And feel even more depressed and stressed on nights she wakes up a lot and has a rough time staying asleep. I am in pain and feel exhausted and lonely... Dont know what to do... Any advice?

Answer

It’s normal to feel this way and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You are tired, sleep deprived and in pain. Unfortunately, this is only the beginning mama so if you feel this way now, please speak to your doctor. Also, speak to your husband. Don’t assume he knows what you are feeling and/or he is ignoring you. Most of the time the men are clueless. See if there are just a couple days he can take off for you catch up on sleep, or cal a relative or friend that might live close by. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. This is the hardest job you’ll ever have and you’re going to need all the help you can get. Take care of yourself and don’t let to much time pass before mentioning this. There is a lot of help out there so take it! You are doing wonderful and you’re baby is lucky to have you! Hope you find some relief soon!

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You have every right to feel however you feel. Stressed, depressed, lonely, overwhelmed...all normal after having a baby. Take it day to day...or even minute to minute. You will make it through. Talk to your partner. Explain what you need from him. Talk to your doctor; you may need more pain meds or antidepressants or post partum counseling. Find a mom friend who has been through this who you can vent to who can relate...perhaps even your own mother.

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My husband works a similar schedule to yours and he still helps.. I know it’s hard for him, but you are recovering from a major surgery.. I needed his help more than ever in the beginning because of how much pain I was in.. don’t feel bad about having him help you, he’s a parent to this baby too

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If still in pain your doctor should have no problem giving more meds. As for your husband, even though he gets up early to work he should still get up and help with the baby. You BOTH created that baby right!?!? It’s hard for everyone! But it’s partnership, taking turns and helping out! Good luck and stay positive!

Should I feel this way?

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