I have a friend (who we will call Anna)who I feel is ditching me for her new boyfriend. And at the same time I feel that she is only there to talk to me when she wants to gossip.

Here are my reasons why I feel this way:

1. During the summer, we both got our old jobs back at the same place to have money over the summer. I started before her so I got to know the new employees there. There was this girl who I didn’t really care for in high school. But seeing as how I’m a senior in college I put the past behind me and was polite to her. Anna came to work a couple of weeks later and her and the other girl became friends. This put a damper on our friendship with our friend, Sara (I changed the name) who didn’t like the girl at all. Now Sara and Anna were closer than I were to either one of them. But they ended up fighting and I was the mediator between the two.

2. Anna and the girl became “best friends” which I felt a bit jealous over because I was friends with Anna for a whole lot longer. And I was there when she needed me during her falling out with Sara. But I got over it because I wanted our friendship.

3. Anna and her boyfriend of 2 years broke up. And I was there to help her through it all. There was a lot of unnecessary drama that happened and it involved the girl that she became “best friends” with and the boyfriend going behind her back. Again I was there for her through it all.

4. Two weeks later her guy friend and her were getting closer and closer. I knew they were bound to start dating soon. And instead of judging her and telling her she’s making a bad choice, I asked her if she truly likes him or is he just someone to rebound with. She liked him so I encouraged it. Others were judging her and she would come to me crying about it. In the end people got over it.

5. Her and Sara reconciled when Sara and her long term boyfriend broke up. But Anna only talked to her long enough to get the details before she ghosted Sara. She did the same thing to me when my boyfriend got sent to jail for having weed on him. (Not a proud moment for him) she only talked to me long enough to get to know the details.

6. Every plan we made to hangout. She bailed and cancelled on me. But expected me to drop what I’m doing to hangout with her. I live 45 minutes away and if she wanted to hangout after I got off of work or out of class which is later in the day I would. But she won’t do the same for me. Yet she will go and see her boyfriend at 8pm and stay for as little as 20 min or over night even though she works in the morning and he lives 20 min away.

7. My birthday is a month away and since I know school and work can get busy, I told her the date that I’m going to celebrate my birthday so that she can clear her schedule. I also told her that Sara would be there so that Anna wouldn’t be surprised or feel awkward when they meet at my place. And Anna told me “We’ll see.” Which came at a shock to me. Because if Sara is willing to drive 5 HOURS to see me, why won’t she drive 45 MINUTES to see me ON MY BIRTHDAY of all days. I took her out on her birthday and made it special for her. I thought she’d at least want to come help me celebrate mine. I mean there’s a reason why I told you a month out instead of the week before.

It’s just frustrating to know that I’m there for her when she needs me. And she isn’t. She’ll say she is but she’s not. When her boyfriend and her had issues and he name-called her because he was feeling insecure about his relationship, she cried to me and I helped her through it. Or when she wants to talk about our coworkers, she’ll run to me and talk about them and when I say something that justifies their actions she kinda stops talking to me.

Thank you for hearing my rant. If you want to offer any advice or insight, I would appreciate it. I want to talk to her, but whenever someone talks to her she twists it to where she is the victim. Otherwise I think I’m going to end this friendship soon.