Coming out ...

When I was a little girl, my mother explained to me that she would always be ok with me being straight/bi/or gay because she loved me for whoever I was.

My father, not so much. He has wanted me to be the perfect figure of normalcy and he would cut down my self-confidence and my being comfortable with myself if I told him.

About a month ago, I realized I was bi.

I was hanging out with a couple of friends and my boyfriend of 2 years and as a joke I kissed my female friend. I was scared of being ok with it and strangely comfortable. My boyfriend also saw it as a joke and we haven’t spoken about it since.

Since then, I have thought more and more about it and came to terms with myself that I was also attracted to women. I had only been with very opinionated males until this point that I felt would not ok with me being bi or would have been judgemental or made fun of me/judged me.

The boyfriend I have now would never judge, I just think he would get jealous and think I NEEDED women and this not need him anymore. He is a very insecure guy because he has had people cheat in the past and is very scared I will meet someone else and leave him. I feel like this would make him more insecure or even think that men AND women would constantly be a threat to him.

Any advice would be great! I don’t want to keep this from him but I also don’t want to tell him out of fear.