Transgender families

Allison • Married to the love of my life 💍 expecting a sweet girl March 2019🎀

Hey y’all. This conversation came up while at dinner w some friends and I wanted to get some of your opinions as I couldn’t believe what some of my friends said.

There is a couple we know. One is transgender (f2m) and married to a man. They are biologically trying to have a baby. They live a very different lifestyle. They are practicing satanist and in our area that is very unheard of. We live in a very conservative state and many people have been downright cruel to them. They share their journey via Facebook so anyone who wants to follow along. They are not evil. Or mean. Or anything other than super incredible people! I’ve never so much heard them speak a negative word. Not even to people who have been evil to them.

I personally think it’s incredible for them to be so kind and open w their journey. They wouldn’t offer their child anything but a normal upbringing. In the sense that they don’t want to force their beliefs on their children and want them to have a life full of love. And safety and respect. Just like any parents should want for their children.

While at dinner they were brought up (as a friend saw a Facebook/blog post and read it) I said I thought it was incredible and that their child will be so lucky w two such awesome dads. A few people at our dinner said that while they didn’t doubt they would be good parents they didn’t think it was fair bringing a child into the world. Especially in a town like ours where people are less than accepting. They mentioned that they thought the child would be targets of bullies and scrutiny because of who their parents are. That they wouldn’t be allowed to have friends over bc the religion they practice. Etc. I think that acceptance is taught at home. As does my husband and my family. I think that it’s our responsibility to be the change in the future generation and in our children. Even if I don’t agree w someone and how they choose to live their life since it’s different than how I choose to live mine it doesn’t mean I have to be cruel and close minded and judge mental. Just because some people have unconventional families doesn’t make them less of a family or less of a human being w feelings ya know?

So my question is. Do you think it is fair to bring a child into the world when you know the possibility of them being bullied and mistreated is a very real thing.? Do you think it would be different if this was a different area than where we live (conservative/south) ?