So my husband has told me a few times that I’m too vanilla in bed. I had never given anybody a BJ before him and with him I’ve only done it about 4 times and that’s before we had our daughter. But even before we had our daughter we had a good sex life. (At least he would never complain)

Now I decided to go through his phone today. And I saw a conversation of him and his friends. And he was telling them how I’m boring, “what are we in the 40’s” and just some stuff that really hurt my feelings.

And I know I’m suffering from low self esteem, & lost sex drive ever since I had our daughter but how am I suppose to even try going back to normal after reading that.

Idk just confused and hurt.

What would you do? Would you say something?