I need advice on a VERY touchy subject, im just going to dive into it. Im sorry if this is the wrong group to add this to. I wasnt sure what catagory to put it in.

Someone i work with-im not very close to her, shes a manager, but we have connected on the baby topic a couple of times. About this time last year she miscarried almost halfway through her pregnancy. I'm 22 weeks and i could tell from my first days at work (ive been there for only a couple months) that it was hard for her to be around me and conversations got awkward. When she told me why i felt so bad and guilty for talking so openly about my pregnancy. Thats usually peoples go to topic with me. I was excited for my 18 week mile stone and she made the comment "well its further than i got" then proceeded to explain to me what happened. We as strangers cried together and embraced.

Well she found out a couple weeks ago that she was pregnant again and she was super excited and opened up A LOT. We talked about a bunch of things and finally connected a little. She was super scared but excited. She just shared her big news with everyone like LAST WEEK. It was huge!

A coworker explained to me today that the manager was going to be gone for a little while because she miscarried again... Ive been home and at the hospital sick with the flu so they were just catching me up on everything ive missed.

Im so so so heart broken for her. I cried as soon as I found out. This woman is so nice and such a good person. She's respectful, polite, religious, and so kind. I dont think ive ever even heard this woman swear once. Although her and i are the complete opposite and probably wouldnt connect if it wasnt for work, I want to show her im there for her.

How can i reach out to her? How can i show her support as a stranger? And respect her privacy. I'm worried about her mental health and I dont want to offend her or make it worse in any way.

I feel so guilty with my baby boy in my tummy. He wasnt planned and in the beginning he was even unwanted. But I'm finally excited and bonding with him. Someone like her deserves him in so many more ways than my hubby and I. I could never go through with it but i cant help feel that way.

Someone that's recovered from miscarriage, what advice can you give me??? How did you feel feel when it happened? What did you want people to say vs hated hearing??? How could people reach out to you?? What do you WANT people to know????

Please please no hate. Please educate me and give me your experiences to help me be a better supporter.

Im not a mind my own business kind of person, I want to be there for people and help spread love. I have never experienced any thing like this before. Im so so heartbroken for her.

Thank you in advance to anyone that comments