This is my first baby and I’ve never experienced labor (obviously) so I’ve asked my mother and husband to be in the delivery room with me. My mother sometimes is not great during stressful situations and will say and do things that get under my skin... (I get mad when I’m in pain and I’m doing this without meds) I’m just wondering if it’s rude to write a “Do and do not” list for my mom and husband during delivery.... For example, I was having painful false labor recently (I had overworked myself and was waiting to speak to my midwife) and I told my mom to hang on while the pain subsided and she began saying “breathe in and out” and making annoying breathing sounds... I realized then that actual labor would most likely be much worse and that I would probably shout at her if she did stuff like that when I was in pain... So, is it mean/rude to type up something to put with my birth plan so that maybe she’ll remember? I feel kind of bad about it. But when I’m in pain I just want things to be quiet. I don’t want to be touched etc...

also, if anyone else did something similar to this, let me know what you put on your list.