I'm at my wits end. For years and years I've had to put up with my husband not answering his phone when he's out. I always say what's if there's any emergency, but he always just says but there wasn't. I always say I don't care how late you stay out but just communicate to me what's the situation. He says oh but I told you where I'm going to so I've communicated.

Today he says he's going to have "a drink or two" with a friend at this pub but he won't be late. Four hours later it's supper time and he doesn't answer his phone. I try get hold of him for two hours before I drive to the pub. Not because I don't trust that he's there, but we have a VERY high drunk driving rate in this country and my mind assumes the worst.

So now I've embarrassed him. He conveniently answered my message just as I pulled up. I didn't even get out the car, I told him he has to leave because I'm furious at this stage now. So now I'm just the loser wife and he drove like a damn maniac home, well over the speed limit after having spent the whole afternoon drinking.

I have spent far too many Saturdays trying to get hold of him, crying because I'm alone yet again on a Saturday and I don't know where he his, because he's not answering his phone and he doesn't even bothered to even look at his phone in case. Out of sight, out of mind for me.

He didn't invite me, and he says because when he offers for us to go out I always say no. I always say no because I have also spent far too many nights sitting there feeling like a third wheel because he has decided to talk to other people.

I'm just tired of this. Of sitting at home to be the one to clean and take care of things while he can completely switch off and have a good time with his friends, without a thought of his poor wife who is spending her Saturday mopping.

When I say this to him, he just tells me to find a husband who cares.

@Kristin yes in hindsight I should have done this but I was just so upset and angry it didn't even cross my mind.