Wean baby off of mommy

My baby is 10 months old and has to have me 24/7. I hold him to pee. I hold him in the shower. I hold him while I feed him. It’s ridiculous. We’ve gotten to this point because no one will take him. I live with two other girls my Mil and SIL. I’m 100% serious when I say no one takes him for more than 5 minutes. I’m afraid to put him on the floor because her house is disgusting and my trailer on their property isn’t very nice but at least I’m not worried about him putting dog poop in his mouth or playing with snuff spit or getting attacked by the dogs but the problem with my trailer is that’s it’s too freezing out there and I’m not allowed to buy a heater.

(Also if your wondering where my husband is in all of this, he’s at work. He’s constantly working so that we can’t move out) I can’t let him cry because they call me a bad mom and say I’m not taking care of him. Baby’s have to cry.

I’m at my moms so now I have a month to get to the point of not holding him all the time before I have to go back. (I can’t stay with my mom permanently because my family dosnt like my husband and his mom and my mom live 1,600 miles away)

I let him cry at my moms house because she lets me. She said to let him just cry because I don’t need to hold him all the time. I don’t neglect him but I’m not gonna hold him and feed him. He’s 10 months and feeds himself very well and he needs to learn to occupy himself. Yes I play with him but I can’t ALL day and then at night hold him. I haven’t slept with my husband in over 3 months because the baby is in the middle of us