Is this normal? Help!

Question

So me and my boyfriend Have been together for a year and 3 months. At first we had sex ALOT! ALL THE TIME! Now that he stays over more often ( 4-5 days a week) our sex life has died off a little. It's been 2 occasions in the past 2 months that I will go down on him and he will finish but usually we go at it right after and then he I'll get limp after I'm done! Those 2 times were after having drinks. Also, he would faithfully go down on me and now it's like a celebration for me when he does!

I confronted him about it yesterday by asking him if there's something wrong with him or me and he said no. I was literally in tears at the thought of me not turning him on anymore!

He left this morning for work and he kissed me and said "I love you" like normal but I felt the tension and we haven't spoken since.

The days we aren't together he still tells me he misses me and misses hugging me while he sleeps. But even the dirty texting has diminished.

Should I be worried or is this a phase? ( he also messed up his shoulda at work and he's been in some pain but conveniently the pain is worse when I want sex!)

Answer

I don't know the full extent of your relationship but the way it seems, you're getting out of the honeymoon phase. For the first year of my relationship with my boyfriend, we would jump on one another every chance we get some time alone together. But it did start slowing down after that. It's just that we have so much more going on in both our lives that we can't just be cuddled up together in bed under the sheets 24/7. It will be a big change from when you started dating. I've been with my man for 3 and a half years now and the last time he went down on me was a year ago. We usually only have sex once or twice a week and a lot of times, I don't even reach an orgasm because we just don't have that much time anymore. The best thing to do is talk with him about it and let him know that the honeymoon phase may be coming to an end but you still want to be with him, both emotionally and sexually. I told that to my man when we had a 4 month slump of no sex. Afterward, we made it a point to make sure that we would try and have sex at least once every week. It's helped a lot and we got over the honeymoon phase ending slump. Just communicate with him honestly band not just with this, but every issue. Communication is key.

Is this normal? Help!

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