I feel so terrible about this. I went to my husbands friends 30th birthday party which started at 2pm on Saturday at a wine tasting. My husband had to leave to go into work after so I stayed and was planning on picking up my 7 month old at her grandmas so I could get her into the bath and bed. After the wine tasting we all went back to the building my husbands friend lives in and had a banquet style dinner and more drinks. I call my mother in law to check on the baby (I haven’t gone out in over a year much less even thought to leave her overnight since she’s only seven months) and my MIL says she’s been so great and just have fun and enjoy myself that I deserve a little fun. So I agree for my daughter to stay over there.

Backstory real quick: my husband works at a family restaurant with long hours and no days off and I am a stay at home mom and I don’t complain about chores, housework, or baby duties.

I felt like I deserved to have some fun. My husband even said to stay. So I did. Fast forward to 12:30am after it was kind of winding down I decided to go down to my husbands friends sisters condo who also lives in the building. It was just me and her talking on her balcony when it accidentally slipped out that her brother had done cocaine a few months ago when my husband had gone over to his place to have a beer. Of course my husband didn’t do drugs, but after hearing that it made me feel weird about the friend having that at his place. I’ve known the friend for about 7 years and he’s never been known to do anything but smoke weed. Anyway, so I had also seen the friend after my husband told me this and he definitely had white in his nostrils a few moths ago.

After the birthday party came to an end and I decided to leave his sisters place and go home, the sister tells her brother what I said and he calls my husband and tells him they can’t be friends anymore and how fucked up it was that I broke that trust.

I’m having such a moral hangover. I know it wasn’t my place to tell his sister, but at the same time I had drank and it slipped out. After the phone call my husband got from his friend, my husband texted him and said I’m so sorry this happened blah blah. His friends response was “I’m sure it will all work out. Disgusted. Take care of your daughter”.

Ummm excuse me? Was that a dig at my parenting? I went out one night that was it. I am home with my baby 24/7 alone without help.

Help me feel better about how to fix this. I feel bad that I messed up my husbands friendship.