Can guys control ejaculation?

So I've just starting dating this dude like 3 weeks ago and he's the sweetest gentleman you'll ever meet, opens the car door for me and buys me presents and stuff. We get along so well and the chemistry has been great and all.

I told him I wanna take it slow coz my last relationship was super painful and I'm still learning to open up again. He understands but is super infatuated with me so he's struggling.

Anyway, he's told me he loves me already and wants to spend the rest of his life with me, which is cute but also flipping scared me coz dude it's been 3 weeks.

We agree on all the main things and our future life plans pretty much line up. I like him a lot but I'm not in love with him. I think that may come, but I'm just taking my time coz I don't want to get hurt again. He knows this as we've been super open and honest with each other.

My family love him and think he's a perfect match for me and so do all my friends.

But yesterday we were kissing on the couch, (just kissing mind you) and the next thing I know, he cums on his shorts. I was immediately turned off and upset. I was really uncomfortable and a bit mad as well. Like what the heck man, keep it together.

We've talked about boundaries and stuff and decided to wait till marriage before sex so I feel like this was really too far. (And also he's getting satisfied while I'm not😒)

We talked about it afterwards and he was really upset and sorry, but he said that "guys can't control it". Is that true? I don't know much about the guys side of things but if people can do the pull out method and stuff like that then I feel like they must be able to control a certain amount of it. Also it was only a few minutes into kissing so it's not like there'd been a huge build up.

I told him that I felt used and he started crying coz he'd never do anything like that and he hated that I'd even think that. (He's really down on himself and blames himself for everything including this)

He said he'd understand if I don't want to see him anymore but I don't know what to do.

I want to believe him and give him one more chance but I just have this niggling feeling that guys have more control than he's letting on.

So tell me ladies (and guys) do men have control or not? And how much control do they have? (We're both 20 if that helps)

Is he lying to me or could he really not help it?

Aw heck I don't know what to do😭