Cramps and “Rest”
So we decided to take me off of my nausea and vomiting meds. After all, we are cruising in on the 3rd trimester. And I hadn’t been sick in a while. No lie, I got sick as a dog yesterday. And I have puked and been ill up until delivery with my other kids. Why did I think I could risk changing the meds?
I called my doctor. She said let’s get the meds going again. She assured me they were fine to take until delivery.
I was super sick yesterday evening. I crashed as soon as my kids were in bed. I bathed and got them ready for bedtime and got there stuff ready for school today while feeling super ill. Life goes on. You’re a mom. Can’t just lay there trying to puke. As much as I wanted to be in the bed holding a bucket. I’m not 100% it wasn’t also something I ate. Which I barely did yesterday.
Last night, I started cramping. Even thought I had bled over night. I was scared. The sickness. Nausea. Heaving. And now cramps and pain in my belly. I never could see any blood. Maybe some discharge.
I didn’t feel great this morning. Picking up my one year old was hard. My husband was like you need to rest...in the same breathe he asked what I planned for dinner. He’s not being insensitive. But he seemed really peeved when he came home from work and the house was still gross with yesterday’s supper dishes in the sink still. He did the dishes. His work is especially hard on Wednesdays. He works with inner city kids. They were particularly bad yesterday. No parent support. Foul. Don’t listen. Rude and disrespectful. Ungrateful. It’s a hard job. And Wednesdays are always the worse.
I just cried. I felt like pure crap. What have I done all week? Sit in my pjs? Let the house fall
Apart. Not eat?
I had just bathed and dealt with the bedtime routine alone. When he came home, our kids were watching tv but they were fed, bathed, and uniforms ready for this morning.
With the cramps and pain in this morning coupled with last night, I put a call into my OB. I don’t usually cramp ever. I’ve been on bedrest with all my kids. I don’t want that again. But I don’t want to lose this baby either. She told me what I already know. I’ve overdone it. (Seems stupid bc I’ve done jack.) The baby is really really low. The heaving and sickness coupled with ligament pain and dehydration from being ill was causing the pain. Basically, I need to drink water, lay down. Put my feet up and rest. Try to eat something if I can. But mostly, I need to hydrate and rest as much as possible. If I start bleeding, can’t feel my baby, or the pain becomes worse or doesn’t let up over the weekend, go to the ER. I have an ultrasound Tuesday. If I can rest until then, we can check everything. But it it’s worse, go to the hospital.
I can’t just lay here all weekend. I have small kids. My husband works. My house is a wreck. Meals need to be prepared. Laundry. The bathrooms are so nasty. I’ve already been “taking it easy.” I’ve been so tired this week. Maybe my body knew something was coming.
My mom offered for me to come to her. She’s almost 3 hours away. I don’t want to drive 3 hours for a nap. And to be far from my hospital and OB doc if it gets worse. I’d kill to just lay down and sleep it off. Get the pressure off my side and lower belly. I can feel the baby off and on.
I’m just really frustrated. My husband seemed annoyed when I told him. It’s not like I’ve asked him to do anything. But some compassion. It’s not just my kid in there. That child is his too. And if he thinks I enjoy laying here, hurting, worrying, and checking for blood, he’s crazy.
He seems to think I’m too worried. It’s cramps and pain. No biggie. Just rest. Like it’s that easy. Just lay down. Ummmm what if your doc told you to just rest and lay down. (Actually, if his doc told him to lay down, I’d make sure he went to bed. Wasn’t bothered. And took care of everything. 😑)
Like resting is so easy with a teething toddler and a preschooler and life and work. Even the OB said she knows it will be hard, but I need to take care of me and the baby as much as I can.

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