Is this reasonable? I'm just trying to be a good dad.

I left my wife in May 2018 because she was manipulative and refused to stop smoking weed as much as she did. It was to the point where our children were not being properly cared for while I was away. 2 and 7 years old. She slept all day. Took them to go buy weed. Never cooked or cleaned, blew all our money all the time etc.

When I left, I took my daughter (with police help) because she is only mine but she did not let me take our son. She kept him from me for four months. She only allowed calls when she was not mad at me (not often) and only let me see him if I was willing to be around her. I stopped that when she refused to stop trying to convince me to have sex with her. Climbing on me as i push her away, begging me etc. We did some meets in public but she always caused issues out of them.

The temporary hearing finally came but she was awarded full temp custody and me visitation. Court did not go well but Oklahoma is known to be a "mom state".

We have spent the last several months trying to fight out the negotiations of the divorce and it has been a brutal process. I finally just agreed to basically give up everything. I am exhausted and she has got her act together. Stable job, getting in school, less weed (if any at all because she was scared of drug testing before it became legal). I agreed to give her full control. I agreed to pay full child support in the summer even though the court said I only pay half for 2 months since I will have him. Her job does not pay her in the summer. (Teacher assistant) so to help her, I said waive the 800 back child support and i will pay the full amount year round which is an extra 600 a summer, for the next 18 years.

The phone calls were listed because she has withheld them in the past, even as recent as on December.

I got tired of fighting. It was hard enough to give up this much but if it meant we got along better and there was no more "what is then so be it. She wanted me to have less than 121 days a year so child support would not change, fine, take it. Money can be replaced, my son can not.

So we drafted this together. My wants and her wants. We sat down and went over it and we both agreed it was the best deal we were going to get with each other. We both left our meeting smiling. I told her it was okay to go to her lawyer and let him draft it and I would review it and sign it.

Big mistake.

Her lawyer told her I was manipulating her and trying to take him away from her. He told her I was taking too much control. He told her he believed my lawyer made this and gave it to me so I could fake like I did it to get her to agree. That is not true. My lawyer is awful. I researched and did it on my own the best I could. She told me I was clearly trying to take advantage of the good person that she is.

I finally broke down crying last night because I am so exhausted. All I want is to be a good father. I just want to be involved. I'll give her the money she wants, I'll give her the control. I just want to be equally involved in his life and his growth. I'm a grown man and I bawled for hours when she came back at me with all this. I had my hopes up and I was wrong to think we could ever figure this out on our own. She came back at me today and told me that it was clear by my reaction(the crying) that I was gas lighting her and now she agrees with her lawyer 100 percent that I am manipulating her. He is the one manipulating her...

All I can do is fire my currently lawyer and go broke spending money that I do not have on a great lawyer.

These were the terms..I am obviously the respondent.

Are these unfair or unreasonable or too controlling? Remember many of these were her suggestion too or ours combined together.