If this gets a little long just bare with me 🙃

Y’all. I love my husband. I adore my husband. My husband is my very best friend. My husband also isn’t very good with communication or expressing his feelings.

Back story.

I’ve known my husband for almost ten years. We met when I was a senior in high school and he was a junior. We went to different schools and by all accounts we were high school sweethearts. W the exception of us splitting his senior year..when he we met he was dating this girl. They broke up we got together shortly after and once we broke up they got back together and over the course of their relationship they had two sons. They’ve not been together since he was 19. He is 25 now. His ex is now also married and has a child w her current husband. She packed up and moved to California leaving the boys w her mother. (Custody arrangement papers show custody w her mom/my husband she’s not even anything) And in the last two years his ex/her mom has made it impossible to see his kids. It boils down to her hating me. FROM HIGH SCHOOL. she still to this day says “I stole him from her”??? Yes we’ve contacted a lawyer. Yes we’ve involved cops but it was so traumatic for his oldest son that we realllly don’t want to do that again.

I’m having my c section next week on the 21st (!!!) it’s my first and my husbands first daughter. I’ve kept my pregnancy from his ex/her family bc she would post on social media how “she’s make my life hell if we have kids. Especially a daughter bc she wants a daughter so bad” blah blah. Well now that she’s found out. I’m not sure how but like I can’t hide my daughter forever lol she’s just constantly bothering my husband. Using their sons against him blah blah. You name it she’s trying it. Her and her mom. We’re in limbo at the moment waiting on lawyers and court and what not.

Of course there’s other things but this situation is the main one that bothers him and the one that we are constantly trying to deal w.

When I try and talk to my husband bc I KNOW it’s bothering him he just kinda brushes me off. He doesn’t want to talk about anything. Be it the situation w his kids. My health as I have an neurological disorder that often leaves my in bed for days bc I’m so sick. Work issues. Anything. I am one that has to communicate. Like if I don’t it eats at me. I used to not be a good communicator but after going to therapy for anxiety and depression i realized how important communication is. My husband grew up in a family that was less than ideal. His parents split when he was young and up until recently he hadn’t spoke to his dad. (He still doesn’t speak to his mom and it’s been almost three years. At least his dad is trying) but his dad was one to never talk about anything. “Talking about feelings is what women do” “boys don’t cry. They need to be tough” etc. has been that way his WHOLE LIFE. Which is why I think my husband doesn’t communicate well.

Y’all getting my husband to talk or communicate is like pulling teeth. It’s causing arguments and issues in our marriage. He’s not opposed to going to counseling but you can tell he’s only saying it to make me happy and I don’t want to waste time going if he isn’t going to really work at it. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’m sure my nerves about becoming a mom next week aren’t helping but I love my husband so much and I know that this is weighing on him awful and I just want him happy and healthy. Any advice ? Or words if encouragement?

I’m sorry if this is rambling or all over the place. And if you read it all you’re the best ever. Thanks y’all. ❤️