How do I tell him?

Question

Sometimes I really don't want to be touched (like my boobs and butt) but my boyfriend loves playing with my boobs. I tell him no and if I say it enough times he won't do it but I wish he would take no as an answer the first time. And he won't do it until I tell him it's ok so it's not like he's doing anything without consent. I just really don't want to be touched in that way sometimes. How do I tell him without him asking over and over again?

Answer

Explain that sometimes it's annoying/painful/feels disrespectful/triggers traumatic memories ... whatever specifically bothers you about it. Let him know your body is not his personal toy, that there is an actual human inside your body who needs her personal space to be respected.

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I love my husband to death but he’s been doing this ever since we met. I’ve learned that just taking his hands away and saying, “no thanks” helps. I’m not reacting in a mean way, it doesn’t hurt his feelings, it just lets him know that I don’t want it. And if he does it again, then he gets a Look. Usually that’s it for him. 
Now that I’m pregnant though, even the slightest, gentlest touch on my breasts hurts me and I jump. He’s quit doing it now because it actually hurts and it scared him because he never wanted to hurt me. He really is the sweetest man and I’m so glad he’s mine, but this was a small problem that I think we’ve finally fixed.

Answer

Lay it down for him. Tell him not to you touch in those places without asking first because you don't like it. If he continues, step out of his reach - go into another room if he presses.

How do I tell him?

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